East Rochester United Methodist Church

East Rochester United Methodist Church

A few thoughts about your pastor!

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Pastor: Todd R. Goddard,  585 678.1893. E-mail.

Pastor: Todd R. Goddard, 
585 678.1893. E-mail.

Rev. Todd R. Goddard, July 2013

  1. I am a disciple of Jesus Christ; he claimed me at my baptism and I claimed him at my confirmation as a youth.

  2. I’ve been called and ordained to be a pastor, whose role is to

    1. Word: proclaim the Gospel of Jesus Christ

    2. Sacrament: celebrate the Sacraments of Baptism and Holy Communion

    3. Service: to serve the needs of the Body of Christ

    4. Order: ensure the administrative order of the parish is Biblical and Disciplinary

  3. I’ve been appointed by the Bishop to serve as your pastoral leader.

  4. In my opinion, the role of the congregation is to “live the Gospel of Jesus Christ and to be God’s love with our neighbors in all places."

  5. It is my role to keep people redirected back to the core values and vision of our congregation.

  6. I believe Christ calls us to empower people.

  7. I believe the Holy Spirit speaks through all people.

  8. I believe in permission giving, way more than permission withholding.

  9. I favor grace more than law.  

  10. I believe the community of faith’s role is discernment of God’s will – individually and collectively

  11. I believe every person has been endowed with God given potential that requires nurture and encouragement to blossom and grow.

  12. Worship is our core activity. It must be done to the best of our ability.

  13. Worship that is combined with mission serves as the best way to grow our church family.

  14. Mission gives meaning to the spiritual journey.

  15. All are welcome at the table. Since all are guilty under the law, I prefer to leave judgment up to God.

  16. Programs ebb and flow; it is just as okay to let go as it is to create. This comes from a confidence in God’s timing.

  17. The only metric I’m concerned with is

    1. Is your heart warmed by Christ?

    2. What are you doing about it?

  18. I believe God has given us all the money we need.

  19. I believe God gives us all the people we need. If we need more, God will provide. If we are not good stewards of the people we’ve been given, our numbers will decline.

  20. I believe strongly in Safe Sanctuaries and the protection it affords children, youth, and vulnerable adults.

Also, I don’t like to have access to church money. I do not want to know what any one person gives to the church. Giving is fun; and opportunities to spread the joy should abound!

If I offend you, please seek me out and tell me! If you see me headed in an uninformed and reckless direction, please inform me! Lastly, I dismiss all anonymous complaints.

Depression-fighting tips by Amanda Gardner (from HEALTH Magazine online)

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(The National Institute of Mental Health reports 26.2% of Americans will suffer from a diagnosable mental health disorder in any given year. This is a lot of people in our pews. These are a lot of people we love and care for beyond our pews. This article comes from our local Mental Health Association, a wonderful organization, for whom I used to teach public workshops. The author provides some wonderful tips for living well. Enjoy! - pastor Todd)

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Medication can help depression. But a type of therapy called cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)-which focuses on changing behavior, rather than talking about your childhood, for instance-can be an effective adjuvant to or even substitute for drugs. "It's much more focused on what you seem to be doing and thinking that is keeping you depressed," Simon Rego, PsyD, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center in New York City. Some of its methods can be practiced at home, on yourself, with no special training. So here are some tips for breaking the cycle of negativity.

Don't catastrophize.

One way to sabotage yourself is to take a single event and treat it as an ongoing source of negativity. "People who are unemployed do this a lot," says Rego. "They've lost their job because of the economy and they personalize it."

It's also unhealthy to catastrophize-focus on the worst imagined outcome, even if it's irrational. For example, don't let concerns about money escalate into the conviction you'll soon be homeless.

Instead of thinking, "I'll never get another job," try to say to yourself: "I will get another job. It just may take some time."

Stop ruminating.

Ever clash with a colleague or fight with a friend and then keep obsessively thinking about it, amplifying the anger, stress, and anxiety associated with the memory? Known as rumination, this type of thinking is linked to a greater risk of becoming or staying depressed.

While reflection is a good thing, and may help you solve problems, rumination does the opposite.

If you catch yourself ruminating, studies suggest it may help if you try to distract yourself, meditate, or redirect your thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy often targets rumination because it can be so damaging to mental health

Retire your crystal ball.

Very few (if any) of us are blessed with the ability to predict the future. But depressed people will often convince themselves they know what will happen a day, a month, or a year down the line. And it's usually bad, if not downright catastrophic.

Fortunately, our dire predictions rarely come true.

Try to stay in the present. It's much more manageable and you're less likely to blow things out of proportion.

Don't dwell on the past.

It's pretty pointless to tell yourself you should have done this or shouldn't have done that. You can't change the past, but you can live in the present.

Just accept that you made the best decisions you could have made with the information or resources you had at the time. Hindsight is always 20/20, so best to try to just let it go and don't beat yourself up for perceived missteps.

And do a rumination check; ruminating about the past can generate anxiety, just as worry about the future.  

Reach out to others.

A hallmark of depression is isolation. It can happen easily if you're not working, or you're avoiding people because you're depressed. But reinvigorating or expanding a social network provides an opportunity to get support, perhaps even from people in the same or a similar situation, says Rego.

"Once you start reconnecting with people, you get a sense they understand," he says. "You get positive advice and encouragement and it's often done in activities that end up being fun."

Staying home alone will perpetuate the depression. Getting out with other people-even a little bit-will lift your spirits.

Stick to a structured routine.

Even if you don't feel like it, make sure you get up at a set time, eat meals at the same hour every day (even if you're not hungry), and avoid lounging on the couch during the day lest it prevent you from sleeping well at night.

"People who are depressed tend to eat or sleep inconsistently," says Rego. "Even if you're unemployed  or feeling down, it's really important to set and establish a daily routine as best you can. This gives you a sense of regularity that can help with a depressed mood."

If you can incorporate socializing into your routine, all the better. 

Avoid black and white thinking.

Black and white is great for zebras, but not thoughts. Depressed people tend to think in extremes: I'm a loser. No one loves me. I'll never get a job.

But your thought patterns could put you in a rut or keep you there. "Being depressed or sad is going to color the way you think about yourself in a negative direction," says Rego. 

These thoughts can paralyze you and stop you from doing the very things that will get you out of a lousy situation. Try to think in shades of gray, says David R. Blackburn, PhD,a psychologist with Scott & White Hospital in Temple, Texas. Instead of "no one loves me," try "lots of people (if not everybody) love me."

 

Reality check your thoughts.

If you're depressed, negative thoughts go with the territory. However, they are rarely grounded in reality.


Once you've identified a negative thought, ask yourself, "Where is the evidence that I'm the most despicable human being on the entire earth?" There probably isn't any.

"You can't just be rattling these thoughts back and forth and saying they're true," says Blackburn. "You have to come up with some solid evidence."

And if you're worried about what people are thinking about you, go ahead and ask them. 

Choose smart goals.

Select a few simple, straightforward goals you can easily set and follow, suggests Rego. Those goals should be SMART, which stands for "specific, measurable, attainable, rewarding, and time-limited."

So for example, deciding you will have a job by the end of the week is unrealistic.

But deciding to post two resumes online by the end of the week, on the other hand, is SMART. "It's specific. It's attainable. It's not that much effort to do and it could be rewarding," says Rego. 

Fake it a bit.

Write down all the things you used to like doing that you've stopped doing because you're sad and depressed, suggests Rego, who is also assistant professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

That could be going to the movies, socializing with friends, or simply going to the corner coffee shop with a newspaper.

Then, one by one, start reincorporating these activities into your life even if you're feeling unenthusiastic about it. Also, focus on tasks that can give you a sense of mastery or accomplishment, whether it's tidying up the apartment or paying the bills. That can help ease the depression as well.

Don't deny depression.

If your present situation, well, sucks, denying it will only make things worse. "Some people don't accept they're depressed and instead beat themselves up or think they're crazy or weak," says Rego.

This may only drive you deeper down, while acceptance can relieve the suffering, he says.

In general, knowing and accepting that you're depressed can allow you to take steps to make it better or get treatment, rather than pretend that everything's just fine. 

Treat yourself well.

Take a look at the language you use when you think about or talk to yourself and compare it to the way you talk to everyone else. If there's a disconnect, try to treat yourself in a kinder, gentler way.

"We're often kind to everybody else but we beat  ourselves up. That's a double standard," says Blackburn. "It would be preferable to use a single standard: Don't beat everyone else up, but get off your own back, too." 

(For more information about the Mental Health Association, call 585.325.3145)

2014 Annual Conference Highlights!

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Our own Brae Adams accompanied pastor Todd to Annual Conference, held at the OnCenter in Syracuse, May 29-31, 2014. Together with about 1,800 other United Methodists from upstate New York, we recognized retires, celebrated shared missions, received reports, established compensation guidelines, and passed a budget. We worshiped together, prayed together, and studied together! At our closing service we ordained new pastors and deacons for service.

All the news can be downloaded and read from the Daily Advocate, located at: http://www.unyumc.org/pages/detail/2140

Another Story About Partnering

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People with special needs are neighbors, family members, and friends. They are members of the community just like everyone else; just like you and me! 

What really excites me is when a church opens their arms and makes an intentional effort to welcome EVERY member of the community into worship and missional life. This demonstrates a hospitable, inclusive, and welcoming attitude that builds congregational strength and spiritual depth.  

A colleague recently sent this testimony to me about a local church nearby: 

I want to share a wonderful experience that a few of the individuals here at Perinton participated in this morning.  The pastor here at Perinton Presbyterian did a small little service just  for some of the individuals of Perinton Day Hab that wanted to get this holy season of Lent underway.  The pastor shared some words to get us in the correct mind set for this season and made us think of ways to honor our Lord and thank him for his ultimate sacrifice.  The individuals that went got a lot out of what the pastor had to say and they were very appreciative to receive the ashes for Ash Wednesday.  We had a wonderful little conversation after to discuss some of the ways we could honor our Lord during this season as well as after Lent is finished.  The conversation that took place was fantastic as it was between peers and not just staff driven. The pastor here at Perinton didn’t have to do any of this and it was truly a blessing for the individuals to partake in it. 

Truly, dearly beloved sisters and brothers walking in the footsteps of Jesus, isn't this what we are called to do?

TALK IT UP! Why Churches Should Consider Partnering with Neighbors

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I received the following note written by a director of a day program in our area that is housed in a local church:

"I had the opportunity to spend the day at the St. Stephens day hab yesterday and was so very impressed with how the team has built such a strong relationship with members at the Church. Ron, who is a member of St. Stephens stopped in to say hello to everyone and thanked (staff and attendees) for supporting a recent breakfast that the Church hosted. He shared with the group that all of the proceeds were being donated to the WNY food bank. 

(One of the lead staff) shared with me that the day hab will be joining St. Stephens Church members for the Lenten Seasons upcoming Friday fish fry! There is often a benefit from sharing space, community relationships are being built and we are able to share a similar mission."